The 'Good Morning' & "WYD' Texts Need To Stop

If you clicked on this article based on the title, chances are you or someone you know have experienced, or are experiencing, these repetitive, surface level text messages. Now don’t get me wrong, it is nice to have someone think about you enough to check in with you. However, when these words aren’t backed up with action, they become useless. 

It took me some time to realize that just because someone texts you everyday, does not mean they are interested. By “interested,” I mean actually putting in the time and effort to date you. They can find you attractive and you can literally check all of their boxes, but they still won’t make plans to spend time with you.

There are many reasons as to why someone who claims to be interested in you, but is keeping y’all contact strictly through text messages. Let’s go through a few of them.

They are getting to know multiple men/women (whatever their preference is) at the same time. Good morning text messages aren’t hard to send at all. In fact, it isn’t difficult at all to text someone all day. This person could be entertaining multiple people at once to see who they actually want to put effort in. Don’t be surprised if all of a sudden they stop texting you less or altogether.

They just want someone to talk to. Many are looking solely for companionship. They might be bored or lonely and just want someone to communicate with. I’ve been told that this is quite common on dating apps. 

They are in a relationship. While this is awful and tasteless, it happens quite often. There are many who are in relationships with people they aren’t happy with and looking to fill a missing void. Then of course you have your share of “I want my cake and to eat it too.” 

So now that we went through some possible reasons that person isn’t really putting any real effort, let’s create some messages you can send them letting them know that you aren’t here for the games and are looking for a genuine connection. Feel free to copy, paste, and send these. Also feel free to edit, add, or change anything before sending. 

• Hey, I appreciate the consistent check-ins, but I am a woman/man of action. I was wondering if you had any intentions on asking me out on a date?

• I love our phone conversations, but I wonder how our conversations in person would be? (insert thinking emoji)

• I’m looking for something serious and intentional right now, and I’m not sure where your head is at. It would be nice if we actually got the chance to spend more time together in person.

• The connection we have over the phone is great, but I just want to make sure it’s the same if we were in person.

• What are your intentions with us? Do you see this as something that can be long term? I only ask because we barely hang out (or: we haven’t talked about hanging out).

Or just get straight to the point…

• Do you ever plan on asking me to hang out, or are we just keeping communication strictly through the phone?

You are worth way more than a few surface level text messages throughout the day. Consistency and effort goes hand in hand. Without the other, they both lose value.