Bestie, Let's Unlock Our Main Character Energy With 5 Simple Tips

Listen, I think we all know that girl who could walk into a room and all eyes are instantly on her. She doesn’t have to say much, but her aura screams “I’m that gworl!’ She gives Joan from Girlfriends, Tasha Mack from The Game, and Rihanna all in one. Her confidence is as tall as 6 inch heels, only she isn’t wearing any. It’s not about what she is wearing, whether she has on makeup or not, or who she is with, her energy is enough to captivate a room full of people.

Little do we all know, this woman has been through a plethora of storms, but as the good saying goes, “she does not look like what she’s been through.” That’s because she knows her value and never compromises her self-worth or the love she has for herself. I know by reading the title of this article you might think I am going to tell you that you need to go on a shopping spree on Rodeo Drive, visit Erewhon to get an expensive smoothie, or spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on a monthly trip - but if you are able to do so, shout out to you.

I am no expert when it comes to unlocking main character energy, but in my 30 plus years of life, I can tell you about the main characteristics I’ve noticed from a few boss women…and men. And after looking at probably hundreds of youtube and tiktok videos of people who have shared their thoughts and opinions on how to carry yourself like as the protagonist in every movie.

Be Confident & Most Importantly, BELIEVE In YOUrself!

I know we’ve all heard someone mention how important confidence is. If it isn’t our older siblings, a content creator on TikTok, a life coach, or even our middle school english teacher, walking in certainty is something that, for most of us, was taught pretty early on. Just think about it, if you are trying to pitch an idea for a movie to a successful filmmaker, but you’re feeling unsure of yourself or you’re stumbling on your words, do you think that person is going to consider you? Chances are, they won’t. It isn’t because what you are pitching is silly; it’s because you don’t sound sure of yourself. A huge part of being confident is believing in yourself; believing that you deserve to be in a room full of prominent people. I know that we as humans go through things and have had horrible experiences with people. You might have been in a really bad relationship with an individual who was emotionally draining and didn’t treat you like the star you are. You may have family members or friends who weren’t always kind to you and tried to bring your self-esteem down. What you have been through and what people say about you does not define you. So, walk in that room like you deserve to be there…because you do!

Set & Stand On Your Boundaries

If you look at any powerful woman and notice she has a small circle of friends beside her, just know that they are probably some of her closest friends. If she is boo’d up in another country with someone, just know that person treats her like a queen. Someone who stands firm on their boundaries does not entertain people who don’t have her best interest at heart. She is not going to associate herself with those who she knows aren’t genuine. This is a woman who knows how to say ‘no,’ who is self-aware and knows when it’s time to walk away from situations or people who no longer serve her or drain her energy. Setting and standing on your boundaries does not make you a bad person. It validates that you know your worth and aren’t willing to compromise it for anyone.

Positive Self Talk

I am a firm believer that the energy you put out in the universe is what you will receive in return. The power of the tongue is real. If you are constantly repeating that you are unhappy or things never work out in your favor, then you will experience that more and more. Instead of affirming the negative, uno reverse it and only speak in your favor. I watch a lot, and I mean a lot, of manifestation videos, and the one piece of advice I always hear from manifestation coaches is that in order to receive what you desire is to first work on your self concept. This means completely changing the way you think and view yourself. This might require you affirming that you are worthy, deserving, and a winner, journaling, meditating, or whatever practice you feel most comfortable with so that thinking in your favor is embedded in you. This also might look like you disassociating yourself with people who are not matching your energy when it comes to being your biggest fan.

Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Queens don’t compare themselves to other Queens. Kings don’t compare themselves to other Kings. And most importantly, main characters are not watching their show from another character’s tv. Everyone’s journey is different, and while you might feel like things are moving “too slow” for you or wondering when your big break might be, magic is happening behind the scenes so that you can live out your dreams. As they say, comparison is the thief of joy. Cheer for your wins, big or small, and most importantly, keep pushing.

Make The Best Out Of Your Life

Life will life like it has never lifed before. When it does this, you can either dwell on the negative or look at the brighter side and be optimistic for better days. Do things that make you happy. Take that trip you’ve been thinking about. Start that yoga or pilates class. Join that book club. Take yourself on a shopping spree. When you start living your life for you and enjoying all the things it has to offer, you will start feeling good about yourself. You are too busy being fabulous and happy that you don’t have time to stress and worry. When you feel good, this is when that main character energy starts to show. 

I am here to tell you that you are a main character. Yes, you! We are beings who are all capable of showcasing our confidence. Keep being you, and walk in that room like you own it!